Being Restponsible*

      Comments Off on Being Restponsible*

There’s something I need you to know.

I wrote this as a reminder to myself a little while back. Focus on rest when you can, my friends. It's hard but it's worth it.

I wrote this as a reminder to myself a little while back.
Focus on rest when you can, my friends. It’s hard but it’s worth it.


When you’re tired you need rest.

Not just sleep, but times when you are awake but not working, when you are actively restoring yourself.

It’s not ‘being lazy.’ It’s being responsible for your own well-being.

Needing to rest is like needing to breathe – it’s a fact of life.

Humans are meant to work, play, and rest in cycles. We aren’t meant to push ourselves until we collapse.

I understand that you HAVE to do so very many things but whenever you can create/take the opportunity to rest, I’m hoping that you will take it. Guilt-free.

If anyone gives you any crap about it, send them to me.

*Restponsible is a word coined by my fellow word-warrior Michel Daw. I’m honoured that he let me borrow it. Thanks, Michel!

 

Your Monday Dare

      946 Comments on Your Monday Dare

On Mondays, I dare you to do something kind for yourself.

This week’s dare?

I DARE you to spend a few minutes resting.

Even if you can only give yourself TWO minutes, throw yourself into those minutes with abandon. Let the world spin without you while you let go of the reins.

Bonus points if you lie down.

Double bonus points if you do this a few days in a row.

If you like, you can tell me about your successes below. 🙂

DARE

Stop Thinking and Write – Online Class Starts MONDAY!

      Comments Off on Stop Thinking and Write – Online Class Starts MONDAY!

I’m really excited to be offering this online class starting Monday, January 16.  A lot of people I talk to  have the desire to write but they have so many thoughts in the way that they can’t get words on paper.

Stop Thinking and Write is designed to help you get past that!

Stop Thinking and Write 15965990_1247779648649588_7990853892112313809_n(January 16-February 13)

Have you been reluctant to start writing?

Are you overthinking the process?

Would you like to channel all that mental energy into your writing instead?

Join me for Stop Thinking and Write and you’ll

– find the fun in your writing process
– feel energized by your own creativity
– let go of unhelpful mental ‘clutter’

Stop Thinking and Write includes four video classes plus activities and exercises posted in a private FB group. This class is suitable for writers of all styles and experience.

Classes and exercises can also be made available via email.

Cost: $50

Register by emailing christine@christinehennebury.com

The Writing/Storytelling Connection on 10 Minute Novelists

      Comments Off on The Writing/Storytelling Connection on 10 Minute Novelists

I have the great honour of guest posting on the website of one of my favourite people today.blog-graphics-8-683x1024

Katharine Grubb is the force behind 10 Minute Novelists and being part of her group is one of the single greatest things I have done for my writing.

In today’s post, I am talking about how being a storyteller makes me a stronger writer.  It was fun to think about and lots of fun to write.

Thanks for letting me guest post, Katharine!

You can read my words of, well, let’s call it wisdom, here.

And you can find Katharine’s 10 Minute Novelists Facebook group here.

Daring Monday!

      1,085 Comments on Daring Monday!

I just decided that I am going to start something new!

Every Monday, I am going to DARE you to do something good for yourself. i

Our first dare?

I dare you to make a list of three things you do well.

You can post them here in the comments***, if you like, or you can keep your list close to your heart.

And don’t even start with that ‘Oh, I don’t know. I don’t really do *anything* well.’

I’m NOT having it.

We all do certain things well and somewhere in our hearts we know exactly what those things are.

It doesn’t matter if the only skills you can think of right now are applying lipstick and faking a smile when your coworker calls out to you.

Everything counts, so let’s get listing!

 

PS – My list is in the comments!

***Turns out that there is a glitch in my process – I didn’t know that my new template means you have to REGISTER to comment. That’s WAY too much work. Sorry about that!  While I figure out how to change that, why not list your fantastic skills here?

Full of meaning? Well, full of something. ;)

      Comments Off on Full of meaning? Well, full of something. ;)

Here we are on the first Monday of 2017 and I’m sure that as a coach and as a writer, I *should* be telling you about how to make good resolutions and how to stick with them to be your best self.

Turns out, to no one’s surprise, I don’t take very well to being bossed around, not even by myself.

Soooo, I’m not doing any shoulds in this post.

What I’m doing is reminding you that while the change in date is full of meaning and promise to some, it doesn’t have to mean a thing to you. Not one thing.

If you feel like changing how you operate in your own life would make you happier, if you think that editing your internal stories would feel good, then you can do those things any time you please.

Sure, having a specific date and time to start is great – if that works for you – but it isn’t necessary. You can pick any arbitrary time, on any given day and start shaping your story so it serves you better.

You don’t have to accept anyone else’s notion of what makes a good time to start.

There is zero inherent meaning in that switch from 2016 to 2017. You get to decide what’s important to you.

If you would like to embrace the symbolism of a new year and let go of 2016 in one fell swoop? Go right ahead.

If you think that January 25 makes a much better start date for new things? Carry on.

If you think this whole notion of change is a load of crap? Feel free to make a cup of tea and read a few more pages in your book.

And if anyone gives you trouble about not accepting what they have decided these days mean? Send them to me for a talking-to.

I’m working on it!

      Comments Off on I’m working on it!

Thanks for visiting my site! Content is a little sparse at the moment but check back at the beginning of January and there will be lots for you to read!  Have fun!

Finding A Better Story

      Comments Off on Finding A Better Story

When I started storytelling, I used to pretty much stick to the stories as they were written, trying to get the cadence of the words as written to be reflected in the words as they were spoken. I hadn’t memorized them exactly but I had kind of gotten the shape of the story just as it was and I was trying to replicate that.
Over time, though I realized that everyone kind of makes their own shape out of the story and kind of makes it their own so I started loosening up on how I told it, making sure that I got the main points out but not worrying too much if the details matched exactly.
Then a few years ago, I had to tell a story at a story slam – I had to be the sacrificial lamb – the person who tells the story to warm up the judges at the beginning of the slam. The theme was Skeletons in the Closet so I chose to tell a story of literal skeletons- the story of Bluebeard who keeps all his former wives’ bodies in a closet in his house until his current wife discovers them.
Part of the story didn’t resonate with who I am – the girls in the story were helpless – so I thought, based on my previous experience with stories by then, that I should go looking for a version of the story that didn’t hinge on the girls being helpless. And sure enough I found one.
The story of Count Silvernose – one of my key stories to this day – is all about how one girl saves the day and protects her sisters.
It got me thinking though about the stories we tell ourselves and how tend to get stuck in the version we know even if it doesn’t serve us.
We get comfortable in the context that our brain has created for us to explain how we got to where we are, to make sense of our world as it currently stands, and we forget that there might be other ways of looking at it. This is especially true if the story hinges on us being the sole person to blame for the situation at hand – if it depends on us being flawed and difficult. We tend to accept those stories as being ‘true’ because they match our fears.
But, for example, there is another way of looking at being ‘flawed and difficult.’  To paraphrase something that Sam Bennett, author of ‘Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes A Day‘ says, we may be ‘flawed and difficult’ but we can choose to see that as being unique and determined instead.
That’s a version of our story that serves us and while we can’t pretend that we don’t have the other side too, we can recognize that both parts are true, sure, sometimes being determined means that we are difficult. But being difficult can also mean that the person defining us as such just doesn’t like what we’re doing. We are being difficult for THEM, not for us. (And frankly, I don’t mind all that much if I am being difficult for some people. ;))

Sometimes we NEED to be difficult to get things done. AND, sometimes we aren’t being difficult at all.

I’m sure me wanting my own way instead of wanting it your way is difficult for YOU but that doesn’t mean *I* am the problem.

Since there are always multiple ways of looking at things and a variety of stories to tell then it is always possible to find a version of the story that lets you be who you are and be kind to yourself.

After all, you might want to change your systems or your reactions but you aren’t going to want to change the fundamentals of YOU.

So find the story that serves you best, the one that is kindest to the things that are nearest to your soul. You need to be good to you.
We can always do what I did to find Count Silvernose. Take the version of the story that we know, figure out the elements that don’t really work for us, that do not serve our greater purpose, and look for other sides, other views, other ideas that more match what we are trying to accomplish. I am not saying that we have to lie, I’m saying that what exists as the truth depends very much on the perspective of the teller. What is true for you is not necessarily true for someone else but that doesn’t mean that your truth is more valuable than theirs.
You don’t need to go sifting through every detail on everything you hear, that would be exhausting. But something is bothering you, you can sort out different ways of looking it until one of them settles into your brain in a way that makes sense. You can find an approach that is satisfying and that makes you understand the situation and yourself a little better and lets you take action.

THAT is the best version for you.

Anything that keeps you stuck? Definitely not the best version.

A story that blames you isn’t making the world a better place – it makes you an ineffective person – and if you are ineffective then you can’t be doing your part to make the world a better place. And this world needs everyone who is willing to make this world better. Find the version of the story that helps you do that.
And if you can’t find it on your own, then I am happy to help you.