Perspective Shift

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I am definitely not one of those people who is all caught up in ‘Just think POSITIVELY, it will all work out.”

I do think that finding the positives in almost any situation will help…eventually. But I think it is a terrible idea to tell someone in pain or in crisis to just look on the bright side!

However, there often reaches a point in a stressful situation where a perspective shift, or a useful action to complete, can help you to feel a bit better about the whole thing.

An Small Example, with rain

Even though I didn’t have any stressful feelings about this, I did notice a distinct perspective shift on my feelings towards the rain when it woke me up at 5:50am today.

My friend G absolutely LOVES the rain and her love for it has changed my view on it a bit. I’m not a rain-hater but until I heard about her love for it, it didn’t occur to me that you could really ENJOY it. Because of her, when it rains, I take an extra minute to think about how it might be GOOD.

When the intense rain jolted me out of sleep yesterday morning, at first I was annoyed and then I thought ‘G would be so happy to hear this.’ Imagining her lovely smile brought a smile to my face, and I immediately grabbed my phone to capture the video below so I could share it with her.

Taking the video make the rain seem less annoying, and thinking of sharing it with G actually made it feel a bit positive.

Take from that what you will but I like having found a way to enjoy the rain a bit more.

I’m going to try to apply the lesson of the rain in other contexts, too. (I know, I know, I can hear you saying, “Of COURSE, you will, Christine.”)

 

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5:51am. Beautiful but not so much a time.

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(The above video is of a rainstorm outside a window. The window is closed and green trees and grass can be seen outside.)

My Creativity Coaching on CBC NL!

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Some of my writing is on the CBC N.L. website right now and I could not be more thrilled about it.

Many thanks to Sarah Smellie for the GIFs and for reaching out to me to write about how to get your creativity flowing again.

Thanks to John Gushue, too. 🙂

Blocks are part of the process of work, no matter how creative you are. They’re a signal that you need to stop thinking and start doing. They’re a call to be kinder to yourself. They’re a reminder to not get caught up in doing it “right.”

Read more here: How to get going on that big creative project you have always wanted to complete.

Getting Nothing Done? Your Experiment is a Success!

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When you set out your plan for the week, you are guaranteed success…at least in my books.

Either you are going to get your list done or you are going to find a method that doesn’t work. Either way, you have moved forward.

I can hear the voice in your head saying “But how can I have success if I didn’t finish my work?”

I completely get that, but I think you have misunderstood the experiment.

The Nature of the Experiment

I like to think of each day or week as an opportunity to figure out what works for us. We need to know if we need a long list or short one, or if we think we can get more done on a given day than we can. Or if our schedule is too crowded.

The only way to find out if something works for us is for us to try the plan.

So, if your list for the day has twenty items on it and you only got three done, that’s not a failure. That’s an indication that your list was too long, that you had too many interruptions, or that your working conditions were less than ideal.

There is no point in being hard on yourself about what you did get done. And there is definitely no point in being hard on yourself about what you didn’t get done. You need to find out what’s going on and then change your approach.

The Rest of the Procedure

Your next step is to reevaluate the parameters of the experiment.

You know one approach that doesn’t work – so ask yourself, what got in the way of the plan?

Do you need to have a shorter list?

Do you need to delegate some things?

Was something ‘off’ about your work environment?

Did you underestimate the time you would need for your projects?

Do you understand what your various projects entail? Do you have the resources you need to do them?

Once you figure out what wrench got thrown into your work, you can adjust your approach and expectations for your next list.

Your Takeaways

If you don’t clear your to do list, it is never a sign of failure on your part. It’s a sign that some part of your work system needs tweaking.

Have a look at the factors that prevented you from working, and adjust as necessary.

A Question

What factor is most likely to affect your work schedule and how could you adjust for it?

My new ‘go-to’ relaxing moment

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When I was on my writing retreat recently, I spend a few minutes sitting on a (very rocky) beach just watching the water. I took this video so I could (kind of) go back there whenever I need to.

I thought you might enjoy the video, too.

 

Reminder: We all have baggage and that’s totally okay

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I’m doing the Daisy Yellow Index Card A Day Challenge again this year and the prompt ‘suitcase’ brought me to this reminder.

a drawing of a person who is wearing a purple shirt and a black skirt, they are pulling a wheeled suitcase. There is black text that reads 'Having baggage doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you. It just means that this isn't your first day. If you can't check it and leave that stuff behind, put some wheels on it and roll on."

I know that things are often waaaaaay more complicated than this but, in a way, they are also this simple.

Please don’t add to your stress by thinking that you *shouldn’t* have any baggage.

No matter how much you are carrying with you, you are enough just as you are.  You are okay. You are loved. <3

 

Some Writing Advice – 10 Minute Novelists Posts

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I really like writing flash fiction (stories under 1000 words) because it’s fun to work with quick ideas and stories that size feel really flexible to me.

If you’d like try some, here are a few tips: Into the Heart: Writing Flash Fiction

If you are spending any time telling yourself that you are not a ‘real’ writer, please give me a chance to change your mind.

How to Become a REAL Writer (Spoiler: You already are)

Story A Day 31: Spell

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They arrived once a season on a schedule of their own making, that’s what the locals said, anyway.

The townspeople weren’t sure where the women came from, but they trickled in over the course of the appointed day. The shrieks of laughter and the growling of grievances stored in other places but unpacked here reached a fever pitch by the time the sixth one arrived.

They brought food for their feasts and for their offerings. They brought tea, and coffee and wine to sustain them.

They devoted themselves to the rituals, to the rhythm of work and play, giving each its due.

And when their labours were done, and the moon was high, they built a fire. Sitting around it, their faces studies of light and shadow, the strands of their connections were visible to those who chose to see.

Some swore they had heard the women howling at the moon one clear cold night.

There were those who swore the visitors were witches.

And perhaps they were.

Story A Day 30: Wish

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The fountain was a bit deeper than I thought, and I ended up with one wet sleeve, and a stain on the front of my shirt.

 

The coin in my hand made it all worth it, though.

 

It probably wasn’t the one I wished on but the witch said it only had to match in weight and colour, so it took up the same kind of space.

 

Once I brought it to her, she would be able to undo it. I would no longer have what I wished for.

 

Really, I should have been more careful in the first place.

Story A Day 29 – Iron

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“You have be sure to use the highest quality tools if you want everything to turn out properly, that’s why I stick to cast iron,” the instructor said, “If you season cast iron properly, and take good care of it, it will never let you down.”

 

Standing behind her door, listening to the intruder, Lindsay gripped the frying pan handle with both hands and hoped her instructor was right.

Story A Day 27: Change

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“Just don’t change, okay? I want us to just stay the same forever.”

“Of course, my love.”

I knew his point was moot but, since I couldn’t change anything, I just kept making my cocoon and pretended that I could keep my promise.